Change means action

"Progress is a nice word. But change is its motivator. And change has its enemies." - Robert Kennedy Change does have enemies and Robert Kennedy knew that truth and paid for it with his blood. Change can be dangerous. That is why our natural instinct is to stay the course; stay put; avoid trying something new; leaving well enough alone; being safe; and I could mention another twenty or so excuses. If you are the type that wants to stay in your comfort zone, you will never experience the immense joy that comes from living. In order to succeed we must take risks and that means we have to change. Robert Kennedy said this in the context of politics. He referred to making progress as a nation. The only way to make progress as a nation is to change our point of view, to change the way we govern ourselves, to change certain laws that are unfair, and change the way we deal with the bad guys. But his words can apply to any aspect of life, not just politics. In my career as a trainer I can say that change is the one thing that is needed the most and done the least. I have seen people go way out of their way just to avoid change. I trained adults in job readiness skills. Let me tell you that there were times I couldn't even get an adult to change their seat after 20 minutes of being seated in class. That is how ridiculous we can get about change. We all need to train ourselves to be more open. But it goes further than that. Change is an action word and that means we need to act if we are going to progress. Change is not a theoretical practice of the mind, it implies real physical movement. For example, we may say that we have changed our attitude towards someone, but unless that is followed up by an action towards that certain person, they are only shallow words. Change means to repent. I instantly scare people away as soon as I say that because of the religious overtones. Well you can apply this to religion if you like. All I am saying is when someone says to you to repent, it simply means to change what you are doing. Change requires 3 things. The first is to recognize the need to change. The second is you actually do the action that is required. The third is you maintain the new course of action. Those happen to be the same three things involved in repentance. They say that recognizing that you need to change is half the battle and that is so true in my experience. The changing part is actually a lot less difficult to do than the first part which again is recognizing that you need to change. The final part is easy. It just requires that you keep on doing the new action over and over again. The second part in the middle means you must turn around and do something different to prove that what you recognized as needed to be done will be done. Change is empowering no matter how small it is as long as it is positive. Today, why not give change a chance and perform an action that you know needs to be done in your life. You will be gratified and empowered when you do it!

Internet time management

The Internet is taking over man’s normal way of living, so therefore when we consider time management, we must also consider the World Wide Web. It used to be to manage time; we had to consider family, friends, work, and ourselves. Now we have to consider emails, websites, advertising, marketing, and other key factors that are including in businesses today. At one time in our lives, we went to work for eight hours and returned home. Now we go to work and it is never determined what our workload will include. Time management is critical for saving us from headaches, heartaches, and other types of pressures. When we manage our time accordingly, we seem to function well in society and at home. The flood of data that passes us each day via the Internet has changed the entire outlook of time management in the last few decades. When we go to work, we often have to sift through a pile of emails, sorting to find out which ones matter the most. Sometimes we may stumble upon emails that surprises or interest us. This is not good! Time management means to spend your time wisely, and if you are sitting around reading an interesting email, where is your time going? The fact is most advertising are slicks that draw us into a world of fantasy. We often stare into the hands of something that lures us deeper into its web, and if we decide to act on the slick, we often find ourselves regretting the stupidity of acting. Don’t find yourself saying, “I regret this action.” Rather find yourself saying, “Darn it was a wonderful day.” Life is way too short to waste precious time. When you are drawn away by flaky advertisings, your time is consumed, and your job, family, friends, and you suffer. Surfing the web is another source that can take our time and toss it out the door. When we are surfing the web, many interesting topics may confront us. Or, sometimes we see pop-ups that distract us from our intentional goal. Pop-ups for the most part are consistent fakes that interest the human eye, in an effort to distract us from the real world. The interesting topics on the Internet can benefit us in many ways, but if we are at work, our main focus should be work. Once we finish our job, and other tasks are not scheduled on our list, then we can browse the World Wide Net with freedom. We can also consider the chat room. Some companies make available chat rooms for their employees. This is good if you are using the program for work, but many of us are caught up in a game of cat and mouse. The chat rooms are so appealing at times, that it makes us want to stay on for hours. Chatting is a source of communication, which is good, but if the time you are spending in the chat room is not making progress, what is your purpose? To obtain sufficient time management, you need to avoid the areas that consume, and focus on the areas that make you zoom.

New age spirituality inspirational stories part 28

If we remember this always, we shall never be attached to nature; we shall know that nature is a book in which we are to read, and that when we have gained the required knowledge, the book is of no more value to us. Instead of that, however, we are identifying ourselves with nature; we are thinking that the soul is for nature, that the spirit is for the flesh, and, as the common saying has it, we think that man "lives to eat" and not "eats to live". We are continually making this mistake; we are regarding nature as ourselves and are becoming attached to it; and as soon as this attachment comes, there is the deep impression on the soul, which binds us down and makes us work not from freedom but like slaves. The whole gist of this teaching is that you should work like a master and not as a slave; work incessantly, but do not do slave's work. Do you not see how everybody works? Nobody can be altogether at rest; ninety - nine per cent of mankind work like slaves, and the result is misery; it is all selfish work. Work through freedom! Work through love! The word "love" is very difficult to understand; love never comes until there is freedom. There is no true love possible in the slave. If you buy a slave and tie him down in chains and make him work for you, he will work like a drudge, but there will be no love in him. So when we ourselves work for the things of the world as slaves, there can be no love in us, and our work is not true work. This is true of work done for relatives and friends, and is true of work done for our own selves. Selfish work is slave's work; and here is a test. Every act of love brings happiness; there is no act of love which does not bring peace and blessedness as its reaction. Real existence, real knowledge, and real love are eternally connected with one another, the three in one: where one of them is, the others also must be; they are the three aspects of the One without a second -- the Existence-Knowledge-Bliss. To get more information visit : spiritual-simplicity

From pain to purpose

In March 2006 my husband and I celebrated 10 years of marriage. This could not have happened without the Lord, my Pastors and my faith. The faith to start over, faith to be open, faith to be willing to allow the Lord to work through me and use me to help encourage and inspire other women. On April 28, 2004 I thought I would literally lose my mind. Riding in the back of the ambulance the next day, I knew I would not survive. The situation had the best of me. “Just give up” was the desperate thought that entered my mind. “God is not with you,” the little voice lied. “I thought He would give you your hearts desire.” But surely this was not my true desire. “ Why are you crying” were the words the enemy kept throwing at me. How could the one I love taunt me? As I lay in the emergency room he sat across from me laughing in the midst of my pain and heartache, I felt my world being destroyed. Is this a dream? Did my husband really come home 4 days earlier and say he was leaving? I just gave birth to our third child 5 days prior. “Why are you crying?” “Could it be that you just told me you were leaving?” This had to be a dream. “Whatever Nicole.” “Whatever? Are you crazy? You are a man of God; this is not biblical! You just don’t decide that you don’t want to be married anymore after 8 yrs. You have children, you have responsibilities!” “Whatever Nicole.” The dream became a nightmare. This is what began 8 months of warfare, tears, prayer, teaching and most importantly, learning my purpose. This is one of my stories. My life is a testimony and God knows that I will share it. The bible says that we are overcome by the power of our testimony. My prayer is that this story will help just one woman be able to “Breathe Again”. If it helps hundreds or even thousands, that is great. But my mission is to reach that one who is suffering, who is going through what I went through. Sharing my story is also healing for myself. So thank you in advance for reading and also helping me “Breathe Again”. The words to that famous hymn go a little something like this. “This is my story, this is my song, I am praising my Savior all the day long. This is my story, this is my song, I am praising my Savior all the day long” To be in the church and living “somewhat” right is what I thought it took to keep my home, my marriage and our life together. All we needed was “church”. Boy, was I wrong! It takes a lot more than just “church” to keep it together. It takes a relationship. Not just one person having a relationship with the Lord, but both of us. I ended up in the back of that ambulance due to hemorrhaging. When all the tests were done the diagnosis was “stress”. Yeah, maybe I was a little stressed out. My husband did just tell me the night before that he was leaving. The doctor prescribed Zoloft (an antidepressant), but I refused to start taking something that I would be dependant on. I made this assertion not knowing that shortly after that I would be dependant on another pill. My husband was in and out of the house after that night. He was still officially there, but not really there until a few months later. Then I put my foot down. “You will not do whatever you want to do in this house. My kids will not see you coming in and out as you please. You will not sleep here, go to work, then leave and go sleep at another woman’s house. My son is 14 and I do not want him to think this is ok.” That is what came out of my mouth but I really wanted to say was, “I will do what you want, just stay” “ I will accept you being with another woman, just stay!” I wanted to beg and plead. “Don’t leave me, don’t leave us, just stay” As desperate as it may sound, that is what I was willing to do for my marriage, for my kids. I grew up without a father in my home. I didn’t want that for my kids. I didn’t want to sleep around, date, or get to know someone else. When I got married it was for life. We were meant to be together, I didn’t want a divorce. I wanted my husband. But he didn’t want me. After all how many other women know their husbands are cheating and still stay? One older woman shared her story with me and said, “Baby – sometime you just have to do what you have to do. My husband cheated on me for more than 30 years and the affair didn’t end until the other woman died. My kids used to come in the house and tell me their father’s car was parked at her house around the corner. I just accepted it. I lived with it for the sake of my family.” But I could not be a statistic. I had more respect for myself than to allow that to go on. As difficult as it was for me, I knew he had to go. I made a promise to myself that I would not cry in front of him anymore because that gave him power. Each time I would cry he would laugh. (The enemy would laugh) So I arranged a time to be out the house so he could pick up his things. He called me and said he had them and he was taking them to storage. I hung up. My chest got tight, my stomach turned, my heart began to race. My knees began to buckle. My hands were shaking uncontrollably. I needed air. I had to get air. He actually took his things. He actually was gone! “There is not another woman, it’s just me.” “Do you think I am crazy?” “Whatever Nicole.” Those words again. That is what our conversations were like. For a man to be so concerned about his family and then not care how we ate, not care how we paid the mortgage, not care about anything at all concerning his wife and kids, much less the Lord; it was too much for me to handle in the beginning. He changed right before my eyes. Didn’t he know this was wrong? I know he was not raised like this. I tried to understand, I tried to just pray that he would come to his senses, but enough was enough. It was not a good example for my children and it was awful for me. My mind was slipping each day, I couldn’t eat, couldn’t sleep. I would have panic attacks, my stomach was upset all the time. At the time I was still on maternity leave from my job so all I had was time. Too much time if you ask me. Time to examine myself inside and out. Why did he leave, what did I do? What didn’t I do? Did I get too fat? Am I ugly? Did I not give him enough sex? Those were things that ate at me day in and day out. Why did I move to Virginia, away from my family to a state where I had no one but him? This is when my dependency on PM pills began. I took PM pills every single night after he left. I just wanted to sleep this nonsense away. To sleep next to someone for years and then be left to sleep alone was awful. I hated to be in the house by myself. To tell the truth, I was a little scared. Grass was growing, toilets were breaking, the truck sounded like an 18-wheeler, the air conditioning broke and I had to pump my own gas. Those were just a few things that happened initially after he left. It was terrible. I never had to do deal with these things before. I was totally clueless. My husband had spoiled me, and I had to learn how to do many things on my own. Watching the reactions of my children broke my heart. My daughter would cry for her daddy every night in the beginning. But then she started to pray. I would hear my 6 yr old daughter in her room praying for her daddy to return. I remember one particular night she came out of her room and said “Mommy, we need to pray for my Daddy because he is in a bad neighborhood and we just need to pray that the devil gets away from him.” My son was just angry. People would come to me and say the wrong things all the time. “I know how you feel.” “It will get better.” Those were just some of the maddening things people said to me. I have found that if you don’t know how a person feels or don’t know what to say just don’t say anything. Sometimes the best thing to say is nothing. Each day was a battle. Most people didn’t know I was going through anything because I went on with my day-to-day functions. I wore a fake face. A mask. I would summon just enough strength each day to do what needed to be done. I couldn’t be like some and sit around and cry all day; I had three children to take care of, and one was an infant. They depended on me. They needed me and I needed them. They kept me going. We were all we had as far as family. The days got better as I started to dive into things I enjoyed. I kept busy in the church and other activities. I enrolled the kids in sports. A busy schedule kept our minds on something other than the fact that we had been abandoned. Many people thought I should hate him but I couldn’t. I loved him. Not the person that he became, but the man I married. The person he became was mean, rude and just a different creature towards the kids and me. He was not himself. Each time I talked to him it felt like I fought 12 rounds against Tyson. It was exhausting just trying to have a normal conversation with him. The phone rings at 7am. “Hey Baby.” “Good Morning.” “How you doing?” “ I am good and yourself?” “ Just on my way to work” “Hey, do me a favor and don’t call me when you are on your way to work - especially after you just got out of the bed with another woman. I am your wife.” “Whatever Nicole.” That phrase again. “There is no woman.” At least 3 times a week my phone would ring at 7am until I refused to answer. Each night I would come home and scream into the pillow. Each night I would think about dying. I knew the Lord; I would go to heaven, right? At work I would go in the restroom to cry, then splash water on my face and resume my daily responsibilities. Most people never knew. My husband and I are back together now but the most important thing is that I found me. I found the lost Nicole that was buried. The Lord allowed me time to work on me. I truly am grateful for who I am and what I had to endure to help others. Often I tell people I went through for you. Not me. That is why I founded Breathe Again Magazine. Women wear these masks really well, but we are hurting, struggling, crying on the inside. Most people never know. In my struggle I needed to touch someone, identify with someone that knew how I felt, someone that could relate. By using this magazine as a forum to share personal stories of triumph and victories, our mission is to help encourage and motivate just one woman with an article of inspiration. The quarterly events are to help someone get “A Breath of Fresh Air” even if only for an afternoon, evening or night. To get away from our “to do” list and snatch some time for yourself. You deserve it.

Thanksgiving thoughts thankfulness in times of trouble

Thanksgiving is a time for food, celebration, and fun. Every year on Thanksgiving, families gather around the table to enjoy a meal and give thanks. But for some folks, Thanksgiving can be a lonely time. Many adults spend the holidays feeling isolated and depressed. Today as we celebrate this Thanksgiving, it is important to remember that it’s about more than being thankful for one day, it is an entire lifetime. Today is the day to be thankful for all the things in your life, no matter how big they are, or how small. Even in our deepest sorrow, we can find things to be thankful for. Holidays bring out emotional pain. This time of year can be difficult for any one who has suffered a loss. Should you be missing loved ones this holiday, rejoice in the knowledge that they are with God. Don’t push yourself today; allow yourself that time to grieve. For those who may be feeling depressed this Thanksgiving holiday, open your heart to giving. Helping other people in need is a wonderful way to celebrate the day and may make you feel less alone. Check out communities in your area that may need volunteers during the holidays - example: soup kitchens, shelters, hospitals or reach out to your local church. Life is full of unexpected changes. Death is very much a part of life. Whatever you do today, don’t cover up your feelings of depression and isolation. Own up to those feelings and know that you’re not alone. Somewhere today, someone is feeling the same way that you are. Today on this Thanksgiving Day please remember, though the harvest might not always be plentiful, family and friends may be few, God has given us each a great deal to be thankful for. It's my experience that it's much easier to thank God for our blessing than to find a way to be thankful in the midst of our troubles. I'm thankful that I have the strength to meet the challenges that come with life. I’m thankful for each memory that family and friends have given me. I’m thankful for having a profound understanding that it is more important to give than to receive. This Thanksgiving I have much to be thankful for. Not what we say about our blessings, but how we use them, is the true measure of our thanksgiving. ~W. T. Purkiser Today be thankful for what you have to give, not just what you have received. Happy Thanksgiving.

Save on taxes through home loan lending

Do you find yourself groaning every time you file your tax returns? Do you cluck with anxiety and regret each time you calculate how much of your paycheck actually goes to the tax guys? If your answer is yes to both questions, buy a house! Home loan lending makes owning a house easy. Additionally, it provides you with huge tax advantages. Home Loan Lending Lets You Save on Interest When you file your income statement, the interest you pay to purchase your principal residence is deductible. In fact, you can even purchase additional land through home loan lending and claim the residence interest as a deduction. The only condition is that this land be adjacent to your home. Furthermore, you can declare as a tax deduction the interest on as much as $100,000 of your home-equity debt. The good thing about this is that even though you use the borrowed money to go on vacation or a shopping spree, the Internal Revenue Service, or IRS, won't care. as long as your house has the equity and this equity secures your debt. Home Loan Lending Helps You Save on Taxes Taxes give everyone headaches, especially when it's time to pay or compute them. Home loan lending can make the headache throb just a little less painfully, however. When you purchase a house, you can declare all the real property taxes you pay as a tax deduction. You can do the same even if you are only a tenant shareholder in a cooperative apartment building. You can declare your share of the property taxes paid as a tax deduction. What makes this discount on taxes particularly interesting is that there is no limit to the number of properties that quality for this deduction. If you purchased 15 homes through home loan lending, the property taxes you pay on all 15 houses can be declared as a deduction. Home Loan Lending Gives You Gain Exclusion Suppose you went for home loan lending 30 years ago, and now you own your house. You want to sell it, however. Is there any way you can continue enjoying tax advantage? The answer is yes. If you lived in your property for at least two of the past five years before deciding to sell it, you can exclude from your income declaration $250,000 of the profit from the sale. Even better, if you sold your house for less than $250,000, you need not report the profit to the IRS. You have no tax liability on the sale. Uncle Sam Is All for Home Loan Lending Why is the government so generous to homeowners? The truth is, Uncle Sam wants to put you in a house. Unfortunately, the costs of purchasing houses and lots are so prohibitive few could afford to go through a cash-only transaction. Most opt for home loan lending. Uncle Sam makes it easier for you to own a home by subsiding parts of the cost you incur in home loan lending. Clearly, a home does not just shelter you from the elements. It shelters you from tax, too. Home loan lending just might be the best thing that could ever happen to anyone since the discovery of indoor plumbing. After all, with home loan lending, you not only get to buy a house, you can use it to pay lesser tax!

The secret when you can walk on water take the boat part 21

The remainder of Sunday was enjoyable. I have little trouble with weekends. It’s the time between weekends that sometimes gives me problems. All too soon Monday arrived. The ride to the office was taken up with reflections on the past few days. Although we realized we’d be seeing her again soon, June’s visit had been most welcome, but much too short. Gideon still amazed and intrigued me. There was no doubt in my mind that he had access to considerable information and power. I accepted some of his concepts such as time travel as distinct possibilities, especially since I was a party to some of those journeys with him. But again, some of his ideas were difficult to reconcile as I struggled with my “reality thinking.” As usual, I was the first one to arrive at the office. As I walked in turning on the lights, he was waiting for me, sitting on the chair across from my desk. “Gideon! Not you again!” I exclaimed. “It seems as if you’re getting bored with me, John,” he said with a twinkle in his eye. “No, of course not,” I hastened to assure him.“Not bored, just amazed that you always appear at the strangest times.” “That’s good to know. I came because I felt that you’re going to need to see a bit more clearly today. ”He did not smile this time and was more serious than I’d ever known him to be. “What do you mean, Gideon?” “You’re afraid,” he said, “for your employees, your family, your friends and others. You think you’ve done all you could to make things better and yet, you feel that you can’t see the light.” “You seem to be reading my mind again, Gideon. What you say is true—but I’m only human.” “Only human, John? Only human?”He was intense as he continued.“You use that as an excuse. You're much more than just human. You and everyone else are more divine than human. You were all created in the image and likeness of the First Force, the Almighty. Don’t you remember the numerous legends of creation?” “Yes, of course. So what? I’m human or divine or both. It really doesn’t matter. I’m still concerned about myself and my people and because of my concern, I sometimes fear and tremble. Is it so terrible to care for others? Is it a sign of weakness to be concerned about your fellow human beings? What’s so terrible about that?” “No, not the caring, John. The worrying is what gets you. You must make a distinction between caring and worrying. You care, so you try to make everything work right. When nothing seems to work right, you worry and become fearful and because of the fear, you short-circuit yourself.” “In what way or manner, O Great One?”I asked somewhat sarcastically. To read the rest of the story visit spiritual-simplicity

Julie didn t understand her own power to begin with

I was in the middle of lunch when the email came through. Julie had some news she was absolutely bursting to share. She'd just had one of those moments of excitement where everything made sense and she wanted to share it. 'You know Neil,' she said, 'I thought you were joking. Here I was in debt, trying to work around kids, and to be honest struggling because I felt like a hypocrite - I mean, whose going to come to a stressed holistic therapist for relaxation!' It was a few minutes later, as I returned to my salad, that I actually got the power my work had on her. Because later in that email she said, 'Suddenly things you told me about clicked into place - about time you're probably thinking! I mean it is a few weeks since we last spoke!' Julie went on, 'When I got things straight in my head, I began to do things differently and suddenly the debts are reducing, the kids are playing nicely and five new clients have found me.' Julie agreed that I could share her personal story with you, because she felt - and I agree with her - that maybe you or some people you know will find inspiration from it. Personally, I'm always moved by people overcoming the odds whether that's: how a woman from Rwanda escaped, learned English and wrote a book that told her story; or an ordinary woman from the Midlands mastered some fundamentals. You see, a lot of people relate to Julie: an "ordinary" mum of two while struggling to balance the kids, self-emplyment and cash flow. But she changed it all around. With Julie we're talking big picture, life changes. But last night I had to practice what I preach to improve my own state of mind. Because to be honest, at 7.30pm it wasn't looking good. You see, I'd had a busy day of meetings and when I got home I didn't know what to do with myself. I was tired and I'm sorry to say, I was a bit grumpy. The TV was on and it would have been easy to just accept it's programming and sleep with my eyes open for a few hours. But I thought to myself, 'No, I am really alive and my brain does work and there must therefore be something better than this to do.' So I sat back and had a fantasy about what would be better than staring at the TV. I played out the fantasies in my mind and began to feel more energized and happier. I then did some gentle exercise and took a bath. Come 9pm, having spent almost 90 minutes caring and nurturing me, I had a buzz again (which I doubt TV would have given me - unless I put my fingers in the back of it! ;-) . With Julie it was more of a 'holistic-overhaul' than a one day choice. What I worked on her with Julie was her goals, then we worked on her awareness of what was in the way of their achievement. Julie is just one example of a process that works like a dream. With love and good wishes Neil

Simple tips to increased happiness

There really is no secret to being happy, you just have to make up your mind to be and you will be. But in case you need more than that here are 15 steps you can take to begin learning how to make yourself happy. To be happy is relatively easy just decide to be a happy person. The choice is simple really, choose to be happy. Suffering is optional! Once you make the choice to be happy your world will change to accommodate what it is you want and you will find being a happy person easier to do than you first thought! Abraham Lincoln once said "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." Decide today that you are the best person to make you happy and find ways to do that. Remember that no one can make you happy! Your happiness lies more in your hands than it does anyone else. Thinking he should, she should, they should make you happy puts your life in a shaky position because when “people” aren’t making you happy, you are miserable. A great way to be happy. Laugh! Laughter has an amazing effect on the body, mind and spirit, raising us up when we feel down. Just stop for a minute and remember a really funny incident. It doesn’t matter how long ago it happened, just recall it now and see what you saw, hear what you heard and feel what you were feeling. It should bring back the feeling inside of you of being happy. Now whenever you are down just recall that memory. 'Laughter is the best medicine'. 'The only thing in life that will always remain the same is change', and in our life we have the power to make the necessary changes if we want to. Even if we find ourselves in an unbearable situation we can always find solace in the knowledge that it too will change. Social networks or relationships are important. Nobody likes to feel alone (although you never truly are – but that’s a whole other topic!). Join groups, dating sites, network groups, whatever it takes to get you socialising. People are different, accept people for who or what they are, avoid clashes, constant arguments, and let go of all kinds of resentments. If arguments seem unavoidable do your best to make an effort to understand the situation, see it from your point of view, then their point of view, then see if you can become an outside observer looking at the two of you disagreeing and see it from that point of view. What difference does that make for you? Being grateful is a great attitude. We have so much to be thankful for. Thank the taxi driver for bringing you home safely, thank the cook for a wonderful dinner and thank the guy who cleans your windows. Express your feelings, affections, friendship and passion to people around you. They will most likely reciprocate your actions. Avoid holding on to anger or frustrations, this is bad for your health. Instead find ways of expressing them in a way that will not cause injury or harm to anyone. I love thumping my pillow or screaming really loud (into my pillow or somewhere secluded!). I find the best medicine for expressing my feelings is writing in a diary. Learning is a joyful exercise. Try and learn something new everyday. Learning also makes us expand and broaden our horizons. And could also give us more opportunities in the future. Run, dance, walk and do other things that your body was made for. Feel alive. Avoid exposure to negative elements like loud noises, toxins and hazardous places.

Foreplay tips

Foreplay is an important and crucial part of the whole lovemaking process. It is simply defined as everything you do that comes before actual intercourse. A couple needs foreplay to spice up their sex life, get fully aroused, and heighten pleasure. Men are from Mars: Sometimes men need prolonged foreplay to get an erection. Foreplay for men is relatively simple and easy. The direct touching of the genitals usually does the trick. But for those women, who want to tantalize their men into submission remember these five foreplay-for-him maneuvers. 1. Visuals play a vital role, so a sexy clothe would be a nice touch but giving him an unadulterated view of your body will be the hottest gift. Reinforce this view with some steamy moves guaranteed to thrill, like giving him a strip tease. 2. Let your parted lips roam his body, like his stomach or chest, then slowly exhale. The rush of hot air will change the temperature in his skin and heighten his arousal. 3. Seize control and show your animal instinct. You'll be surprise to know that men crave seduction as much as a woman and being aggressive is a sign of lust and that you? re as into it as he is. 4. Excite them with touch. Guys are especially touchy when they are between the sheets. Giving him butt massages and long but gentle scratches up and down their back will turn your man right on. 5. Do what ever it is you are doing to bring him to the brink. Then ease up, not necessarily stopping, but put off the good thing for a while. Do this a few times until he screams "enough already." Women are from Venus: Women need foreplay to become properly lubricated. For women foreplay is a bit more complicated. Direct genital touching is the last place you should go, consider every where else on her body as a good place to touch, massage and kiss before you go there. Letting her know that she is wanted for more than sex, that she is cared about as a woman, is what really turns her on. Here is a five step plan to help her get ready. 1. Nothing is more important to a woman than knowing that you have a connection. It can be as simple as telling her that you were thinking about her, and missed her, nothing over-the-top, just honest and caring conversation. 2. Remember that being intimate does not have to mean being sexual. Once in a while ask her probing questions and give her more than one-word replies when she asks you the same. Confide in her, and let her know that you appreciate her listening. 3. Establish physical contact without being sexual, like holding her hand, giving her massages, do anything to simply make contact without mauling her. 4. Kissing, for women, is an incredible turn on. You have to remember that women sees kissing as another form of emotional intimacy so do not go to a lot of tongue action right away. It will be good to start with a brief caressing of lips and pay attention to whether or not she's digging it. If she is, continue from there with a bit more passion but always be aware of whether she is reciprocating. A great trick is to imitate her kissing style, as it's surely a sign of what she likes! 5. Remember that from kissing her until the "heavy petting" stage, there should be some interval in between. The duration of the kiss will depend on how hot and bothered you both get. The longer and slower you kiss her, the more experienced you'll seem, and the she'll be excited. There is no time limit on foreplay, usually the longer it takes the more sensitized your skin becomes and sends your senses to haywire that leads to explosive orgasm. The key is to start intercourse when you are both fully aroused and having a hard time controlling your desires. Remember that initiating sex, breaking routine, exploration, new places, new positions, and letting her know that she is wanted sexually is what turns her on.

Spirituality information journey in the fields of forever part 76

“Good to see you again, Pandayji,” I replied as I seated myself across from him. I was anxious to ask him about his experiences in the meadow, but thought I’d wait a while. Over breakfast, we discussed my schedule for the week and agreed there would be enough free time to visit some interesting sites in the north, if I felt like it. Still not a word from him about last night, so I brought up the subject. Since I wasn’t sure whether the whole event was the result of my overactive imagination, I was rather cautious in my approach. “I had some weird things happen last night, Pandayji,” I said. He looked up immediately and said,“Yourroomwasn’t comfortable? I’ll speak with them.” “No, not my room, Pandayji. Just some dreams I think,” I replied. He creased his forehead, as if trying to recall, and said,“Now that I think of it, I, too, had some dreams in which you and Mardai, Jonathan and Malika were present. But I can’t remember anything else. Seems like others were there, too.” “What others?” I asked, “Gideon and Marla?” “I know them through your books, John, and yet, I’ve never personally met them. There’s a familiarity with the names, but really, I have no idea who else might have been in my dream. And even if I had met Gideon and Marla, I wouldn’t have known who they were.” He smiled and said that he had slept well and was sorry he couldn’t remember the rest of his dream. However, I knew he believed dreams were important and had a beneficial effect on our daily lives. Mardai was right, I thought. Pandayji forgot that he had met us last night. Then he asked me what my dream was about. “Well,” I replied, “I saw Mardai and the children. Gideon and Marla were there too, but the strangest thing was that you were there speaking with Gideon and Marla. To me, it was more than a dream, Pandayji. It was so real . . . as real as our sitting here right now. Perhaps, it wasn’t a dream at all. Perhaps, it really happened.” “There are many mysteries on Earth, John,” he said, “many dimensions to life. We probably exist in all these dimensions simultaneously. But I think we only remember them vaguely so that we don’t confuse them.” To read the rest of the story visit spiritual-simplicity

Master french pronunciation

If you aim to learn the French language in all its beauty, you may want to learn how to pronounce the French words the correct way. Keep in mind that each language is unique in its own way that even normal letters used in the English language has a distinct character and pronunciation of its own in the French world. Remember that the language is in French and what you’re trying to learn here is completely different from your English language, or whatever it is you grew up on using as the primary language. But what is important is that, you have a sense of recognition that the French language has a distinct sound and accent. It’s best to forget what accent you currently have and try to adjust or better yet adapt to the French accent little by little. When you’ve heard how the words are used, be sure to listen to the words carefully and try to repeat them properly the way they should be mentioned. Also, when you speak the French language, speak like it is the only accent you’re capable of saying and nothing else. In this sense, it’s okay to repeat what you’ve heard once or twice. But not to a point when you have to be purely dependent to repetition as a way of memorizing a new language because it’s not appropriate. If it’s not possible for you to find a crowd of French speaking people or natural French speakers, try to get a French tutor. This way, you can check with your tutor if you have a hard time pronouncing one French word. Yes, even one word of confusion is important because it prevents you from acquiring wrong habits of pronunciation from the very beginning. For your daily activity, it would be best to practice tongue-twisters as a warm-up exercise for your French lessons. French words are very complex, so doing your best to pronounce good French words as early as possible would be a great help to future lessons and words.